It’s hard to define compassion. It’s deeper than empathy. There is a spiritual thread to the idea of being compassionate about another person. From their eyes and their words I often have a “hello” of awareness, even if we’ve never met. I want to know what you’re excited about.

Here we are, sharing a few minutes together. We can talk about the food, the weather, your kids, my kids, our delight at recognising another friend on the path.

What’s inside me is up to me, my attitude, my approach to the challenges ahead. I want to encourage you in whatever you’re dreaming about. I listen. I smile. If there’s a connection we talk.

I’m not disturbed by the guy talking on the phone the entire time. I’m not even disappointed. I’m neutral. I’m listening. You’ve got the lead on how our conversation or non-conversation will go.

It’s joyful when we recognize other compassionate people. There’s a flow of conversation that shows our interest and our enthusiasm for their plans.

“Oh boy, these steaks look nice. How are you going to cook them?”

1. I don’t know anything about cooking steaks
2. I’m not all that interested in how you’re going to cook them
3. I am interested in engaging you in a conversation about something your doing.

Find compassion first for yourself. You are doing the best you can. From that self-awareness you can walk more calmly and with more empathy than most people. Compassionate people stay open to the experience of the present moment regardless of which way things go.

Look, smile, and listen.

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